Y’all. for almost a solid week, I have slept all night. Sleeping all night shouldn’t seem like a big deal at this point in my life, but it is. (And I probably just jinxed myself.)
Remember Caedmon’s fear issues? He’s gotten much better. I can’t really say what magic thing it was that helped. Because goodness knows we tried a little of everything. And we still have some challenges from time to time, but that’s mostly habit and stubbornness. I have no idea where he gets it.
I finally changed my strategy in dealing with him getting up and being scared in the middle of the night. I started walking him back to his bed. And because my intention was to help him feel secure (and he asked), I would sometimes lay down next to him. And would promptly fall asleep.
It probably took him longer to fall asleep than it did me. Seriously.
I’d wake up at some point and stumble back to my own bed, hoping that was the only time he got up that night. As it stands, he is up and going by 6:30 or 7:00 anyway.
I really hope his sleeping issues are worked out. At least for now.
Honor is waking up early these days too. She’s learning to pull up, so she was up at 6:30 yesterday morning, trying to stand up in her bed. She did figure out how to get herself down, but she never went back to sleep. And was cranky by 7:30. Coincidentally, I kind of was, too.
At least Caedmon has stopped going to visit her when she wakes up that early. We had a few days when they were both awake super early and he would go “visit” her. Which didn’t work well for anyone. But in his defense, he was just trying to love on his sister.
The first morning she woke up early, he went into her room and talked to her. Sure, it’s 6:30am. Why shouldn’t they have a little sibling chat? Except that he knows he’s not supposed to go into her room. So we talked about that and he said he wouldn’t go into her room again in the mornings without asking.
The second morning, Honor woke up, and after a while, kicked her fussing up a notch. I checked the monitor and noticed her door was standing wide open. Not cool. So I asked Caedmon about it and he said he opened it. He didn’t want her to be afraid of the dark. Sweet boy, trying to take care of his baby sister. I hadn’t specifically addressed that the morning before, so we talked about not opening her door, and he said he wouldn’t do it again.
The third morning, Honor was again awake very early. As was Caedmon. And again, instead of settling down on her own, she got angry. I checked the monitor. Her door was closed all the way. Definitely not the way I left it. So I asked Caedmon about it. He’d closed the door. Why? Because she was too noisy. Again, I hadn’t specifically told him not to close the door, so this time, we talked about it. We talked about everything. Don’t go near her door. Don’t touch the door. Don’t breathe in the general direction of her room.
The fourth morning was the real test. Honor woke up at 6:15. Caedmon, miraculously, was still asleep. I snuck down the hallway and closed his door so she wouldn’t wake him up. Honor finally settled herself back down and went to sleep.
A little while later, Caedmon came into my room, very unhappy. “Who closed my door?”
I can’t win for losing. Unless I get to sleep all night. Then it’s a win no matter what.